Re: JE misjudgement

>Actually, it's funny that both of you are discussing this. For years, I hated
>the following:
>
>:) <grin>, <lol> and so on...

WF:

Certainly I'm finding that from time to time I've been misunderstood. ("Just
wanna be misunderstood...") Many people assume that every note (or
situation) is a "fresh slate," with nothing having happened previously that
might have caused it. Or that they "know" a person well enough to figure it
out. For instance, when I wrote "The gerbils are looking particularly lovely
this year," anyone who was here during the Rich T. thing knew immediately
what I was talking about (and hopefully had a laugh about it). Neophytes
might have wondered what the Hell I meant (but I hope that they still found
it amusing).
I personally go on the assumption that there is a reason for everything, and
if someone gets offensive or attacks someone or acts in a manner I might
find unsavory, I always give them the benefit of the doubt that I might not
know everything about what's going on (I mean, who could seriously claim
that?)...unless, of course, they "clear it up" and I can be sure. I think
that's always best. What good does it do to get upset, only to find out
later that the person had a good reason or was making a joke or whatever? I
assume that the majority of people here are intelligent people (Who fans). I
have to assume at least that, even if it's not true in every case.
One thing to ALWAYS keep in mind: without the benefit of really knowing the
person who writes or does something unsavory, we cannot be sure what their
motivation is...so don't assume the worst. Maybe they had a damned good
reason. I always assume the best, and then find out if I really feel I need to.
But I ain't a-gonna use those "emoticons." People will just have to
misunderstand, I suppose.



                   Cheers                   ML

"I think you should keep on playing Rock as long as you have an axe to grind
and then if you haven't got an axe to grind you should go into cabaret."
                                                                 Pete Townshend