absolutism vs relativism

["Jeff House" <whocasa@xxxxxxxxxxx>]

As I continue to read that many of my fellow Who fans are offended by the 
band's activities, I've been thinking about something I witnessed last year. 
 This is a true story.

I've a friend who buried her husband of 40+ years.  They were a beautiful 
couple.  They were the best of friends, partners in all that they did.

He was very sick during the last year of his life and could not communicate 
very well for his last few months.  She cared for him in their home despite 
the fact that she was ill herself much of the time.

After he passed she was lost.  She was unsure about the many decisions she 
made while he was ill and immediately after his death.  She had never made 
big decisions without his input.

She looked to her friends and family for reassurance that she had done  
right by him.

I told her that she could not do wrong in such decisions.  She loved him 
unconditionally.  Her heart was pure where he was concerned.  All she could 
do was trust in her love of him and act according to that instinct.  She 
agreed and appreciated the support.

This part is fiction, but let's say for a moment that I questioned her 
judgement on even one of these decisions.  Should I have lambasted her or 
bit my tounge?

We are consumers of The Who's music.  We are in the far outer circle of 
their support system.  They don't REALLY owe us and explanation of how they 
are dealing with John's death.  At the very least, we do owe them the 
respect and the room to make difficult decisions now without adding to the 
conflict that they must be feeling.

They love each other and their music more than we do.  It is their music, 
their legacy, their partnership that is at stake.  I think we should give 
them support (at best) or silence (at worst) for now.

We will have years to call Pete, Roger and each other names in these 
discussion groups.  Can't we just show a little restraint for a little 
while?

Jeff

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