Re: letting it die

["L. Bird" <pkeets@xxxxxxxxxxx>]

> Your description is right on the money.  However, I would like to come to 
> some sort of agreement with Kevin.  This I want to do off-list so he and I 
> can settle our differences in a civil manner.
I'm not sure that trying to settle things off list is the best way, MC.  As 
Kevin says, it tends to involve families, and can often be mis-interpreted 
as harassment, especially when the info offered privately later makes a 
debut on the list.  Plus, I find that most people are concerned with 
appearances on the list, and they want everyone to consider them "right" and 
not just the person they're arguing with.  Now and then two folks will write 
in and say they've settled something off list, but it doesn't happen very 
often.

Jon and Jo have both offered excellent advice.  I'm not saying that you 
should just accept anything anyone says to you, but there are more mature 
ways to deal with things than escalating the fight.


keets


keets

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